Golf is often associated with camaraderie, relaxation, and enjoying a few drinks on the course. However, for individuals in recovery or those who have chosen a sober lifestyle – no matter the reason, the traditional golf culture can pose challenges. As a golf enthusiast, it’s essential to be aware of and respectful toward those who are sober. There is a time and a lot of places for drunken golf outings. Your club’s Invitational, Barstool tournaments, The Waste Management Open, etc. This post isn’t about doing away with alcohol. My intention is to share some ways to be more supportive to someone who is living a sober life and create a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere on and off the fairway.
Choose Respect – Always
The first step in being a supportive golf mate to someone who is sober is to acknowledge and respect their choice to abstain from alcohol or substances. To each their own, man.
Seek Out and Offer Drink Alternatives
If you typically enjoy a post-round drink at the clubhouse, inquire if there are non-alcoholic beverage options available. Many golf courses now offer a variety of alcohol-free drinks, such as mocktails, sparkling water, or iced tea. By suggesting alternatives, you make it easier for your sober golf bestie to feel comfortable joining you after a round.
Be Mindful of Triggering Situations
Certain golf traditions, like celebrating a hole-in-one with a shot of alcohol, can be triggering for someone in recovery. Be aware of these situations and find ways to celebrate their success without alcohol. A simple high-five or a heartfelt congratulations can go a long way in making them feel valued and supported. Cue the next point:
Foster Open Lines of Communication
Maintain an open and non-judgmental line of communication with your golf besties. Ask them how they’re feeling and if there’s anything specific you can do to support their sobriety while golfing. Sometimes, a simple conversation can lead to meaningful adjustments in your golfing routine that make all the difference. This isn’t asking someone if they want the pin pulled before a birdie putt. A lack of awareness and minimal communication can affect others in potentially harmful ways that are not visible to you. You may feel uncomfortable, but just do it.
Plan Sober Golf Outings
Consider organizing other golf outings specifically tailored to the sober community. Invite friends who are in recovery or those who prefer to enjoy golf without alcohol. These outings can provide a safe and supportive space for everyone to enjoy the game without any temptation.
Lead by Example
If you usually drink on the course, it might be an excellent opportunity to cut back or abstain while playing with your sober golf mate. Leading by example demonstrates your understanding and respect for their choices and can encourage others to do the same. You can always hit the clubhouse afterwards.
Golf brings people together, regardless of their background or preferences. When it comes to supporting a fellow golfer who is living a sober lifestyle, empathy, respect, and communication is paramount. By making small adjustments and being considerate of their needs, you can create a golfing experience that is enjoyable and inclusive for everyone. Golf is about more than just the game; it’s about the connections and friendships we build along the way, and being a supportive golf mate can strengthen those bonds.
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